Reigniting the Spark in Your Relationship
Have you noticed your relationship doesn’t feel as exciting as it used to? Are things are becoming a bit more routine and comfortable?
Let’s work on bringing the spark back and strengthening your relationship!
Continue expressing appreciation: In the start of a relationship, partners are more likely to say, “thank you” and tell their partner how much they appreciate them! Overtime, this starts fading as things become more routine. Work on actively sharing your appreciation for one another! For example, say thank you when your partner makes you coffee or send them an appreciation text in the middle of the day! It’s a small gesture but it goes a LONG way.
Try new things together: Sometimes it’s easier to be a homebody and stick to what you guys know. But I want to encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and try something new! Go to a pottery class, go skydiving, go to a new restaurant!
Be comfortable doing things yourself: this one may seem a bit odd, but by doing things together all the time you could start feeling drained. Make time to do things with other people or even by yourself! This allows you to recharge and take time for yourself. Start or by doing one activity each week that’s just for you!
Prioritize communication: this one is the foundation of a strong relationship. If you’re able to openly communicate with your partner about your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, your relationship is bound to thrive. Oftentimes, when you’re in a relationship you expect your partner to be a mind reader and know what you’re feeling or thinking. However, this is rarely the case. Empathically listening is crucial for this to be successful! So remember, listen to understand not to respond.
Make time for your relationship: whether you’re in school or have children, you always have to make time for your relationship. Like anything else important in life, you have to prioritize your relationship. This could look like going on a date at least 2x/month.
Wishing you a lifetime of happiness, love, and laughter,
Karishma Patel, AMFT